Facebook “Likes” Define Our Self-worth

likesFacebook allows people to keep close friends updated, tangential acquaintances updated and just whatever the internet is exactly updated.  Upon posting a picture or status update about a life event, users have the opportunity to “like” these posts.  The number of likes a given post receives often correlates to how momentous this life event is.  A baby is born: 214 likes.  Accepted to a top graduate school: 96 likes.  Obligatory “thanks for all the birthday wishes” status: 17 likes.

The problem I see is that we have grown to a point where we seek to validate our success online with Facebook and other social media platforms.  But what happens if you don’t get as many likes as you would expect?  Did you really accomplish anything then?


A couple, Liza and Sam, are standing at their kitchen counter with a laptop open.  It shows Liza’s Facebook profile with a picture of Sam and her.  In the picture, she is extending her left arm and proudly displaying a ring on her fourth finger.  The caption of the picture reads “Can’t wait to marry my best friend!”

Liza: It has been three hours!

Sam: Let’s try to be patient.

Liza: How hard is it to want to like our picture?  My friend Cindy’s golden retriever got 87 likes yesterday for wearing a fedora.

Sam: It was cute.

Liza: Is it the ring?  Do people not like the ring?

Sam: Of course not!  I spent the necessary three months salary on it.

Liza: What is it then?  I’m starting to think we’re not right for each other.

Sam: What?

Liza: Obviously other people think we are not.

Sam: I don’t think likes works that way.

Liza: You don’t think so?  John and Marie were able to get 324 likes on their engagement photo.  And they are both…

Liza starts to cry.

Liza: …ugly!

Sam: Don’t say things you don’t mean.  They are some of your best friends.

Liza: That doesn’t change the fact that they both have ogre faces.

Sam: How about we check how the picture is doing on Instagram?

Liza wipes a few tears from her face.

Liza: I like that idea.

Sam opens a new browser tab on the laptop to Instagram.

Liza: 7 likes?

Sam: Maybe it’s the filter that you used?

Liza: Ha!  The filter?!  It’s us!  Admit it to yourself!  We are not in love!

Sam: Let’s try Twitter.

Sam opens a tab to Twitter.

Liza:  Not a single retweet or favorite?  God, as if it could get any worse!  We are failing across all platforms.  At least I’ll finally have something worthwhile to write about on my WordPress.

Sam: Liza, please don’t give up on us.

Sam re-opens the Facebook tab.

He presses refresh.  The number of likes stays the same.

He waits a moment and refreshes the page again.  No change.

Sam: Liza, I don’t want to lose you.

Sam refreshes the browser.

Sam: We…just…broke…100…likes.

Sam and Liza embrace one another passionately.


17 thoughts on “Facebook “Likes” Define Our Self-worth

  1. This was hilarious. And uncomfortable in how true it was. Real accomplishment is being tossed to the wayside in favor of superficial acknowledgment of trivial things. Some people get more wrapped up in what others think of them as opposed to what they think about themselves and they wonder why they’re unhappy. “Likes” and such should be looked at as a cherry on top, not the end goal, I feel.

  2. I’m so glad I am not the only who feels this!
    I deleted my account years ago because I was fed up of people lives revolving around facebook posts.
    People post comments and pictures in search of validation of their self worth from likes from various people – even if their facebook “friend” is not even a friend.
    I think it’s sad and pitiful that people use facebook as a means of self assurance, rather than just embracing who they are!!
    I’m sick of posts like “I’m so ill” as they search for sympathy from the web.

    Amen to this post =]

  3. Funny, i read this a few days after i delete my Facebook. Guilty yes because i still have my Instagram lol But i started to miss the not knowing what everybody was doing, & it gave me more time to focus on me. If your at a happy place in your life be too busy enjoying it and i promise you’ll forget about posting it …

  4. my god, that was a cliffhanger! i’ve never tried facebook or twitter, but i know all about the neurotic neediness of wanting to rack up the “likes” on word press. it’s interesting to realize how pathetic most of us can be! (randy newman has a song–although it’s not one of his better ones–called “i want everyone to like me.”) anyway, thanks for the chuckle supply. in case it makes you feel better, i like the post very much, and i hope you’ll like some of the ones that i write in the future. otherwise, what meaning could our lives possibly have? (just kidding, by the way, about that last part.)

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