Sometimes my friends ask me for dating advice, and I have realized that I might not be the best at it. This is mainly due to bias on my part that may not be in the interest of my friend. Take the following conversation I had with my friend Ben that includes my own inner dialogue.
Discount Advice on Dating
Ben: You know how I value your opinion. Do you think she is the kind of person for me to be in a relationship with?
Me: Does she still work at J. Crew?
Me: Does she still get that discount?
Ben: Yeah. Fifty percent.
Inner Thought: That is a good discount.
Ben: What does that have to do with anything?
Inner Thought: I really want a J. Crew pea coat, but one can be quite expensive.
Me: Ah, nothing. I was just curious. And you know what, I think you should give things with her another two weeks to see if that spark is there.”
Inner Thought: I should be able to make it out to J. Crew by then right? But…it’s probably better to be on the safe side of things.
Me: Actually, you know what? I’m just not sure if two weeks will be enough time to really give things a go. A month would be better.
Inner Thought: That will be the perfect amount of time in case I need to return the pea coat for size, color, or style.”
Ben: Thanks for the great advice. You’re always there for me.
Me: No worries. Now listen, what I’m about to say might be crazy, but I think we both should surprise her at the store tomorrow when she’s working.